May 30, 2013

I Hate Myself

If you met me just out of the blue, you would think that I'm one of the happiest guys around. Yes I love to smile and make others smile as well but does that mean that I smile on the inside? The answer is sometimes. I sometimes smile on the inside.

I have very little self-esteem/self-confidence. I hate myself. I often feel like I am worthless, that I don't deserve to live. I don't suffer from depression but I do have symptoms of depression. The doctor said that they were too low for him to diagnose me with depression. But still, I hate myself. But I fight, every day I fight for my happiness. I tell myself that I am worth it and that I am beautiful the way I am.

I am worth it.

I had a heart scare a few months back and I actually made it into the local newspaper! They actually wrote a little bit about my self-esteem.

"We interviewed Alex* yesterday and when asked why he starved himself, he replied by saying, “I don't deserve food. I'm not good enough.” With his blond hair, good looks and out-going personality, one might be surprised by the fact he has such low self-esteem. “I hate myself. I'm fat and ugly. I'm just a failure.”"

*Note that they changed my name for privacy issues.

Aww thanks but I'm ugly as fuck.

In reality, I hate myself. I might not act that way but I do. I hate everything about myself; my height, my weight, my hair colour, my accent, my immature personality, EVERYTHING. But I don't care, I will fight for my happiness. I am beautiful in my own way and I will tell myself this everyday.

I am worth it.

May 17, 2013

Different Types of Eating Disorders

When one thinks about eating disorders (EDs) the main thought would be skinny girls starving themselves. Many people think that there is only one type of ED but in reality there are multiple types. These include under eating and over eating as well as a combination of the two.

First here are a few definitions you will need to know.

Eating disorder
Eating disorders are a condition defined by abnormal eating habits, both under eating and over eating, because of one's mental of physical health.

Binge eating (binging)
Binge eating is the uncontrollable consumption of large quantities of food.

Purging
Purging is the act of compensatory behaviour to controls one's weight after eating. Examples of purging are (but not limited to) using laxatives, self-induced vomiting, and/or over exercising.

So without any further complications here are a list of the most common eating disorders.

Anorexia Nervosa

Anorexia Nervosa is characterized by the refusal to eat.
Probably the most well known, Anorexia Nervosa (often called simply anorexia. Note that anorexia is a symptom where one does not feel hungry but it is usually used to refer to Anorexia Nervosa) is an eating disorder characterized by the refusal to eat due to an obsession with having a skinny body and irrational fear of gaining weight, as well as a distorted body self-perception. No matter how skinny they are, it is not enough. It has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness at 20%.

Anorexia is most prevalent in adolescent girls but recent studies have shown younger and younger children are also suffering from it. Also it is estimated that 1 in 4 anorexics are male though in recovery programs only 1 in 10 are males. This is because males are much likely to be diagnosed. It may affect anyone from any social, economical or cultural background.

Anorexics typically consume around 600-800 but cases of complete starvation have been documented. You do no have to be underweight to suffer from anorexia.

Bulimia Nervosa

Bulimia Nervosa (often called bulimia) is an eating disorder characterized by frequent episodes of eating large amounts of food uncontrollably (binge eating) as well as a compensatory behaviour intended to prevent excessive weight gain, often dubbed "purging". Examples of purging are using laxatives, self-induced vomiting, over exercising... etc. The key difference between bulimia and anorexia is anorexics do not purge.

An example of purging.
Bulimia and anorexia are closely related. It is believed that half of the teens suffering from anorexia also suffer from bulimia. People who suffer from both can be diagnosed with an Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (see below) or Anorexia with Bulimic Tendencies. They usually do not eat for a prolonged period of time and then binge and eventually purge. This is a way of controlling their weight though extremely unhealthy.
People with bulimia are generally at a healthy weight. Bulimia is considered less life threatening than anorexia but studies have shown that is much more prevalent. It is believed that up to 1% of women suffer from this. Bulimia is nine times more common in females than males.

Binge Eating Disorder (BED)

The most common eating disorder but still not recognized as a separate eating disorder, Binge Eating Disorder (BED) is an eating disorder characterized by frequent episodes of binge eating (eating large amounts of food uncontrollably) without using compensatory behaviour (laxatives, self-induced vomiting, over exercising) to prevent weight gain. Usually these episodes last no more than two hours but some cases are shown to be different. They difference between BED and bulimia is that bulimics use compensatory methods to prevent weight gain.

Binge eating is the uncontrollable
consumption of large quantities of food.
In the USA it is believed to affect 2-3% of the population. Also 30% of people seeking weight loss treatments have BED. Most people with BED are classified as overweight or obese but people at a healthy weight may also suffer from this.

Unlike anorexia and bulimia, the gender difference between the two are much smaller. Women are twice more likely to suffer from BED than men. Like anorexia, it may affect anyone from any social, economical or cultural background.

At the moment, people with BED are often diagnosed with an Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (EDNOS) since it has not been recognized as a separate eating disorder.

Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (EDNOS)

An EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified) is diagnosis given to someone with an eating disorder that does not fit the criteria of anorexia, or bulimia. EDNOS symptoms and behaviors can vary widely. Someone with this could restrict their calorie intake for a day and then binge the next day or they could suffer from BED (many people with BED are diagnosed with EDNOS because BED is not recognized as an eating disorder).

EDNOS is as serious as any other eating disorder and should not be taken lightly.

Night Eating Syndrome (NES)

Night Eating Syndrome (NES) is an emerging eating disorder where a person eats very little during the day and binges at night. It is characterized by obsessively eating over half of their daily calories after eight o'clock.

The difference between NES and BED (Binge Eating Disorder) is that NES patients binge at night instead of throughout the day and generally snack instead of eating full meals. This is often seen as a way to cope with depression. People with NES also do not purge, differing it from bulimia. 
People with orthorexia have an
unhealthy obsession with eating healthy.

Orthorexia Nervosa

Orthorexia Nervosa is relatively new compared with it's counterparts but is as deadly. Orthorexia is an eating disorder characterized by an obsession to eat "pure" foods. Put simply, they have an unhealthy obsession with eating healthy.


No matter how muscular they are,
 they feel as if that is not enough.
The difference between orthorexia and anorexia is that anorexics focus more on their bodies while orthorexics focus more on the food they are eating. Most people diagnosed with it do not have distorted self-perception. Like BED it is not recognized as a separate eating disorder.

Muscle Dysmorphia (Bigorexia)

Muscle dysmorphia, known informally as bigorexia is not necessarily an eating disorder but it does fall into the category of abnormal eating habits.  Like its name, it is a disorder in which a person becomes obsessed with not having enough muscle. It is quite similar to anorexia in the sense the person has distorted body self-perception but people with this are focused more on building muscle. No matter how muscular they are, they feel as if that is not enough.

Bigorexia almost entirely affects men but cases of women having bigorexia have been documented. Most cases are of body builders.


May 05, 2013

Things NOT to say to Anorexics

Somethings that you might think are innocent enough to say to someone with anorexia are actually either very offensive or might cause them to lose more weight.

Here are some things you should avoid saying:

Can you give me some weight lose tips?

Yes I can give you weight lose tips but you might just die in the process.

Yes anorexics generally know quite a lot of weight lose tips but these tips are dangerous and life threatening. You will lose weight using these tips but they will probably be extremely unhealthy. You probably will lose a few pounds but as soon as you go back to your regular eating patterns, you will gain the weight back.

What to do instead.

If you really want to loose weight, eat healthy and moderately exercise. Do NOT join the ED community.

But I've seen you eat!

We are people too and that means we eat. Most people think anorexics completely stop eating. That is not the case. We mostly cut back on what we eat. We still will eat but not as much. When you say this to someone with an eating disorder, they might take it as an insult and start eating less.

What to do instead.

Don't comment about what they eat. Commenting about what they eat will make them quite nervous and not want to eat around you.

How much do you weigh?

Tell me how much you weigh first.

It's human nature to not want to tell other people your weight. Anorexics are no different. Would you like people asking you about your weight constantly? Probably not. So don't ask others this question.

What to do instead.

Don't make comments about their weight/shape/food intake. This will make them nervous and strain your relationship. Also they might want to cut back on food even more.

You're so thin it's unhealthy!

Thank you.

You might think this is an insult but most anorexics will call this a compliment. Armed with the motivation to lose more weight, they will cut back on food and exercise more intensely for more people to notice and for them to comment about it as well.

What to do instead.

Best thing to do, don't comment about their body. Their body is their body meaning that you have no right to be talking about it.

I have anorexia because I skipped a meal.

No. Just no.

Let me tell you a story. I have a friend named Erin and she is sort of a wannarexic. She says that she has anorexia because she doesn't eat breakfast. Okay you might have the symptom anorexia but you do NOT have Anorexia Nervosa! Skipping a meal does not mean you have an eating disorder.

Saying this is very, very offensive. When Erin said this, I was shocked. I couldn't believe she had just said that. I was very offended. I didn't say anything about it because she is a good friend but still, I was pissed.

Saying this is implying that eating disorders are a joke and everyone has one to a certain extent. Anorexia/bulimia/EDNOS are NOT jokes. They are serious mental illnesses that kill. Anorexia has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness with 20% succumbing to their eating disorder and only 40% truly recover. Doesn't sound funny now does it?

What to do instead.

Just don't say it.

Eat something or (insert threat here)

Threatening them to eat is quite a stupid thing to do. Most people who do this actually have pure intentions but this is not the way to go.

Threats do not work. In all honesty, threatening them will only cause strain on your relationship. They will pull away from you and believe that you are the villain in the story. Also chances are they won't eat anything.

What to do instead.

Encourage them to eat. Don't force them to, encourage them. There is a difference.

Just snap out of it!

Trust me if I could, I would.

You cannot just snap out of an eating disorder. If that was the case then why would there be such a high mortality rate, eh?

It's not a state or mind, it is an illness. Saying "Just snap out of it!" to an anorexic is likes saying "Just snap out of it!" to a cancer victim. You cannot just snap out of it; it takes time to heal. Saying this will only strain your relationship.

What to do instead.

Like I said before, encourage them to get better. Don't force it upon them, encourage them.

May 04, 2013

Q&A

I get asked a lot of the same questions so I felt like I should make a quick questions and answers post. So here it goes!

How old are you?
14. I turn 15 in October.

How tall are you?
5'6. I know I told a lot of people that I was 5'5 but I grew! But I'm still short...

Do you live in Russia?
Once upon a time I did. Then I moved to Canada.

Where in Canada do you live?
Ontario.

Are you straight?
Yes.

What do you look for in a girl?
She has to be a good person inside. Oh, and she needs to like hockey))))

Do you have a girlfriend?
Yes. We have been dating for almost two years now.

How did your eating disorder start?
I made a post about it!!! Right here.

Do you speak Russian?
да.

Ask me more questions on Ask.fm!!!